ATTENTION DECODED

When a person feels a third party resource has been acquired by a colleague… Two emotions have the possibility of surfacing. One emotion, the more favorable emotion, is feeling happiness for someone else. Happiness that we have witness a colleague obtain a resource that they needed to continue down their path of success.   Happiness based on our knowledge of how good an accomplishment feels and our true desire for our colleague to experience joy. People who are able to feel happy for other people are at terms with their own capabilities. They do not play the blame game. They do not attribute their shortcomings on another persons good fortune. They know that their actions will yield their desired results if they stay proactive. They know that if we call ourselves professionals, we do not need others to fail in order to succeed. These are fully mature people of character. The opposite of feeling happy for someone else is feeling jealous about their accomplishments. Jealousy i...

It is the loss of faith in one's self. And it is a loss... People that feel they have lost their self esteem are fighting a battle. Often unseen, and always painful. When we see someone who is showing all the signs of struggling, sometimes it can be difficult to figure out how to help . If you are lucky enough to have made it through world events up until now with strong sense of self worth... If you find it sad to watch good people struggle with a poor self image... Do something. Fully listen to the person when they make self defeating comments. Ask them how they came to believe that story about themselves. Acknowledge that you have noticed. And when you acknowledge show empathy. Do not sympathize. Sympathizing means you know exactly how they feel and since no two people are the same, you don't know. Saying: "you are crazy, you know you are great" or "don't listen to those jerks" while smiling and laughing it off does not help a ...

There are three categories all answers will fall under... An answer that is known. An answer that is unknown. An answer that is unknowable. Known means we have the capacity to know and we do know. Unknown means we have the capacity to know, we just do not know yet. And unknowable are the answers that are not within our capacity to understand. Your value does not decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth. Your true worth is just unknown to them. Your value does not decrease based on what you think you are worth. Your worth may appear unknown to you during trying times, or when you are feeling unsure... Otherwise known as feeling human. Doubt is a human only quality. That is known. You are one of a kind. That is a known. There is no other person who can offer what you offer the world in the same way you can. That is a known. As to deeper issues... When you consider the answer to what your purpose is. You wont find it by sitting still and pondering. If...

The standard level of service we experience as consumers is not great. It also is not terrible. Most of the time it is acceptable. It is acceptable based on the few experiences we have had that represent both great and terrible service. The average of all our experiences as time marches on has defined what is acceptable. Our standards for what we will pay money for has been set by the world going on around us. It basically works like this in the consumer brain: "We don't know where else to get what we want, so we settle for what is available." It is in our nature. However, there is some good news about human nature amidst this conditioned surrender. Human nature wants more . The want is always there. Laying dormant. Waiting. We may not always have the time or energy to figure out how to get more... But when we see it. We recognize it. We want it. But there is the catch. If you want to be the provider of a new standard of good or service in ...

Microbody language. People can look at the smallest shift in the way your body moves and in microseconds get an impression of you. That is our human ability to draw conclusions and judge quickly based on previous situations we have been in. When it comes to deciphering body language it helps to think about what a “normal” response/approach would typically look like. But what about when body language is missing from a conversation? For example: If a person is claiming they care but their body language is totally relaxed, it sends us mixed messages. Understated body language can make a person look timid or unsure of their cause. Most of the time understated body language is our attempt at not looking nervous, but for the observer, our lax posture can feel like we do not care. 93% of your agenda is conveyed by your body. Solution: practice moving. Not because we are practicing to trick people but because we are wanting to be sure they know we care as m...

What you do speaks so loud that people do not need to hear what you say. You do not always need to explain why something went wrong . What you consistently do tells people everything they need to know. You communicate your truest self through your character. In the same way you can judge a tree by the sum of the fruit it bears… Let people judge you by the sum of your actions, and not any one action. This way when ONE person judges you by ONE miss step you won’t let it define you. One bad apple has never in the history of apple trees condemned the whole tree. You are no different. Stay the course. Stop trying to make up for the few inevitable mistakes. Move forward.