ATTENTION DECODED

I am arguably the main reason when you get knocked down…you will not stay down. I am elastic. I have the capacity to help you recover from difficulties. And once I recover you… I come back even stronger to support you. I do not let failure overcome me. I regulate your emotions. I exist only to provide you with clarity. I will not let you quit. Even after misfortune, I will show you how to soldier on. I can change the course of your future. I can show you how to adapt to abrupt changes. Adversity is something I expect from life, and am unafraid of. I accept that fear is a part of life, and will help you face your fears. I will help you build skill to get you through hardships. Once you make me a part of your life I will not leave you. I will take the pain out of loss and turn it into motivation to win. I am your most supportive habit. My goal is for you to persevere. I will be your hero if you will be a champion of my cause...

Manners are free to acquire. Also, once acquired they require you do less verbal convincing that you are a professional person. They are an investment in your own respect for what you do. Paid through your effort. Visible, and scarce... Making it easier for you to stand out amongst your competition if you have them. Considering the majority of how we communicate is interpreted non-verbally... Manners are important to what your image represents about what you might say verbally. Consequently, you may not get a fair chance at being heard if you do not make a good impression visually. Our lives are fast paced. Because of that, we "cut" out certain things that we deem less worthy of our time. But if you want to stand out as an individual who should be picked over another to do business with... You have to actually stand out. You. It doesn't matter if the world standard for looking a...

There is more than one type of narcissistic personality. Understanding which type you are involved with can greatly help how you are able to work with them. One type is the Vulnerable Narcissist. A Vulnerable Narcissistic person has a egotistical outer shell, but beneath is a more insecure person than you would expect. As humans we have a lot of defense mechanisms we cultivate in order to protect our vulnerability. Vulnerable Narcissists tend to take this to an extreme. Insecurity is handled by the vulnerable narcissist by creating an exterior facade that emulates characteristics of power and control. The tricky part is in determining if the person is vulnerable under that hard exterior sheath, or if they actually are internally a mirror reflection of the outside. The answer is usually reviled in how they respond to attempts to connect with them via the use of empathy as a discovery tool. For example: if a person has indicated it is “my way or the hi...

Sometimes you feel like you are one let down away from a breakdown. It can feel much like control is slipping out of your hands. And there is this desperate need to grip something. The feeling of needing to hold on tight to something. Control was never in your hands. Total control over an outcome is an illusion. The only real control we have is in the way we react to situations. The way to train your reaction is to work on your perception of what goes on around you. Grab onto gratitude. Somewhere someone wishes your biggest problem was their smallest problem. This reminds you that you are blessed. But then some time passes and... Sometimes you feel like if someone asks you to help them talk through another "silly" problem you may lose your mind. Grab onto gratitude. Somewhere someone wishes they could be even a fraction as social and comfortable telling someone they desperately need help. This reminds you that you ar...

Post Traumatic Disappointment Disorder:  a made up term that describes a very real situation for a lot of us. Some clients come into the interview with baggage from a previous experience. That baggage will set the tone for your current relationship unless you re-set the stage. Most bad experiences are a result of someone or everyone in the partnership not ever fully understanding each other. When you know where you and your client stand on main issues, it serves as the foundation of the partnership. Disappointment is a high risk without this beginning clarity. Trust and disclosure work by one building up the other.  Demystifying how you do business will eliminate future conflicts. Promote yourself to every client as if they were a bank buying into your business plan. Make them want to give you a loan for your plan. They are investing in you. And so, giving them projected results is not enough. Tell them how you get those results....