Granted Authority

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There are a few possible outcomes when you attempt to “take charge” or ask that something be done in a situation.

Outcome Scenarios:
#1. The other people in the situation decide yes they will happily oblige and do what you have ask them to do because they trust you and are confident that what you have ask them to do, is in their best interest.

#2.  The people reluctantly decide to do what you have asked of them because they feel they have no better option, and that your request is the lesser of two evils.

#3. The people refuse your attempt at authority and vote you out of the situation and refuse to complete the task you have assigned them with.

In the first scenario, authority is welcomed and that is the goal anytime your mission is to fulfill your agenda.

To achieve #1 with success: 

Charismatic authority in what you say will be received as just that…
Something you are saying rather than asking.
Something that makes sense and clearly shows your audience what is in it for them to go along with what you have said.
The easiest way to resonate with another person is to tell them a story they can relate the current situation with.
Story telling is a symbolic way to get a point across to a person rather than making an obvious attempt to convince them.

An agenda that we agree to go along with that is not our original agenda must be presented to us in a way that does not send defensive triggers to our brain.

The Facts:
Every human brain is self-centered.
It has to be for survival.
Our brains were built to survive in jungles and grasslands which means self-preservation is our number one priority by nature.
This is not something our species has outgrown just because someone invented Siri to answer the question of where the nearest pizza place…
People will always consider how things will impact them.
Even the people who like you like to like you.
Keep making your agenda resonate with the basic wants of others…
And they will grant you the authority to direct them.

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