Who goes first?

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Who goes first?

In a negotiation or in a conflict resolution situation...
How do you decide who starts the conversation.
Who goes first?
Who will be bold enough to disclose information first?
Who will it be?


It will be...

The one who understands how to build trust.
The one who is comfortable with defining trust.
The one who is trusted by other people currently and honors that trust.
The one who is not trusted, but can be trusted.
The one who doesn't fear the risk giving out information about their cause.
The one who doesn't hold hostage their ability to be personal with strangers.
The one who thinks about all strangers as humans.
The one who has had their trust in another broken and knew it was right to trust again.
The one who doesn't scratch every itch because they know it will just lead to more itching.
The one who is comfortable with being uncomfortable.

They ALWAYS volunteer to go first.

What are you waiting for?

#StrikeAmatch

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